The bare minimum is easiest to spot by how you talk about him. If you find yourself defending fairly ordinary behaviour as though it were generous — 'he did text back', 'he did remember' — you've recalibrated downward without noticing.
Wanting more is not entitlement, and having standards is not being difficult.
Would you be impressed by this if a friend described it? That's the whole test, and it works every time.
“i've been thinking about what i actually want from this, and it's a bit more than where we are.”
“the bar is on the floor and you keep limbo-ing under it, respectfully”
“i want consistent effort. if that's not something you want to give, that's ok, but i need to know.”
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