Normal: fancying other people and doing nothing about it. Going a day without much to say. Finding him slightly annoying. Not feeling butterflies constantly. Needing time alone. Having the same small argument more than once. Almost everything you're worried is a sign is just what two people being close looks like.
Not normal: fear, being made to doubt your own memory, having to earn basic kindness back.
Ask whether it's uncomfortable or unsafe. Those are completely different questions and anxiety blurs them.
“can i check something with you? i've been wondering if i'm overthinking this.”
“quick vibe check on us, no wrong answers”
“i want to talk about something that's been sitting with me.”
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