Was It Casual
🌀 Talking stage

It's been months with no change

What it usually means

A talking stage has a natural length, and past it, stalling is the decision. Nobody stays undefined by accident for three months. Someone is choosing it, and it is not you, because you're the one reading this.

What it doesn't mean

It is not too late and you have not wasted anything. You have data now that you didn't have in week one.

The one tell

Ask yourself what's changed since month one. If the honest answer is 'nothing', that's the answer to your other question too.

What you could send

Secure

“i've loved this, and i think i want more than where it's sat for a while. can we talk about it?”

Playful · Direct

“we've been in the talking stage long enough to qualify for tenure”

“this has been the same for months and i want more than this. do you?”

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