Fast can be genuine, and it can also be someone skipping the part where you get to know each other so that you're attached before you've assessed. The difference isn't the speed — it's whether it survives a small no.
Not all intensity is love bombing, and being swept up isn't naive. Just don't let the pace decide for you.
Decline one small thing and watch. Genuine enthusiasm adjusts. Love bombing sulks, escalates, or punishes.
“i'm really into this — i just want to take it at a pace i can keep up with.”
“slowing us to a brisk walk, if that's ok”
“this is moving faster than i'm comfortable with. i need to slow down.”
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